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Happiness vs Suffering

What prevents you from knowing your True self - that part of you that lives in happiness and ease?

Suffering is optional. 

If you are miserable, if you are in pain - physical or emotional - the choice to suffer or not lies in your own hands.

Your thoughts create emotions that spark feelings. Your thoughts and feelings ALWAYS match.


Just because you have thought it and believed it for so long - just because those in your world believe it that does NOT make it true.

The stories you tell yourself keep you stuck. The stories running in your head cause your suffering.

How can suffering be a choice when you are in pain - physical pain or emotional pain? Ask yourself, “Are you the pain or are you the one observing the pain?

Your body does not hurt. Your feelings are not real - only Conscious Awareness experiences what you hear, see, taste, touch and smell.

So why do you feel like you suffer?

You believe your mind is you. Your mind keeps you in the past (where pain is constantly revisited) or in the future. It bypasses the only real moments of life - the now.

Most people spend about 5% of the day in the NOW. That means you live in your past or future 95% of the time

You don’t DO anything to be happy. You ARE happy. Your job is to remove the blocks you put up to experience your happiness.

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- Suffering reveals false stories you tell yourself that you believe are fact.
- You stay stuck by suppressing those feelings and even the memories that      create thoughts, storing them in the file folders of your amazing computer mind.

File folders for each suppressed emotion fill across your life time - until you choose to take action to clear them out.

You can choose to live with pain Or you can choose to dissolve that pattern.

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About the Author Ali Bierman

Ali Bierman has been a relationship expert most of her life. As a wife of 32 years, mother, psychotherapist, specialized kinesiologist, ordained metaphysical minister, best selling author, Albert Nelson Marquis Lifetime Achievement Award winner, gifted artist and composer, teacher, family member and friend, she brings a unique perspective to her work. Change happens instantly in Ali's world. What takes a long time, and maybe never happens for some people, is getting ready to change.

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