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Why Are More Women So UnHappy Every Year

Back in the 1970s Betty Friedan and Gloria Steinem launched the world-changing Feminie Movement. As the child of a working mother (in the 50s and 60s) I knew my mom worked so much harder to earn so much less than men earned. Heck, back then, for a woman to be in the work force at all was close to a miracle.

However, the results of the Feminine movement piss me off. The promised land is an illusion of millions of emanipated women worldwide and it dates back to those early "strides" in the 1970s.

I was shocked to discover that while more women hold positions in business - at all levels and in many occupations that used to be closed to our gender - every year more and more women suffer stress that leads to physical and emotional issues leaving them unhappy. And that number continues to increase

And, despite all the hoopla and books and talk shows and media attempts to hide the continuing to this day discrepancies between men and women, professionally women still earn less than men. Women of color earn even less.

Specifically, the number of unhappy women has been increasing since the women's movement ushered women into the work force - worldwide across country borders and across time.

Women working full time, in addition to professional responsibilities, take on 61% of household chores - spending at least 11 hours a week shopping for groceries and needs, cooking, cleaning, doing laundry and taking care of the kids!  

For single moms, the number of hours caring for others  jumps to 100%. For many women,  add the responsibility of caring for aging parents

Juggling all those tasks raises their stress level, physically and emotionally, leading to exhaustion and overwhelm. No wonder  their happiness levels, their life satisfaction,  drops.

I created a proven program that immediately turns around that situation.

I met Cheryl when she attended one of my live classes. When she volunteered to assist my demonstration of how your thoughts create your reality, I asked her to think of an experience that frustrated her. Done - within seconds. Next I asked her to think of a situation that made her feel happy. Try as she might, she was unable to think of a situation - not a single one - that left her feeling happy.

Cheryl was a woman in her 50s who could not relate a single moment of feeling happy! Thankfully she came to me after class and asked to become a client

When Cheryl finished our first session together she called the next day all excited. You know how you hear a smile in someone's voice? She was so joyful as she exclaimed she finally knows what happiness is.

 After our second session she reported a rift between her and her adult son was healed. She had not talked with him. They had not been on speaking terms. By working with me on her own self the situation cleared.

And her healing did not stop there. After her third session she called to report the man at her work place who had been harassing her for 3 years (despite her taking legal action that failed to end the situation) he no loner bothered her! He was still there. The harassment stopped.

You see, you do not need the other person to be present to clear and resolve relationship issues. ONE person can do it alone. Note that Cheryl is not the only client who cleared a family relationship OR a romantic one alone without the other person getting involved.

I share what my research revealed in this must-watch video:

If you feel angry do not ignore this situation.

 Chances are you, or someone you know, still suffers prejudice and, I daresay, injustice, when trying to make a living. Speak up - LOUDLY and OFTEN.

And take care of yourself. 

I lost way too many friends to female cancers. Breast cancer strikes women who fail to  nurture themselves. With all the household chores and childcare and possibly also care of an aging parent (we are the sandwich generation raising kids while assisting aging parents) how can you possibly find time for what feeds you emotionally and spiritually?

And yes, sacrificing certain teeth to root canals consistently leads to some forms of breast cancer and ovarian cancers reveal a failure to give birth to your own ideas and desires and actually act on them to nourish your spirit and feed your joy.

And then there is when I created a tumor. Thankfully, not cancerous, but a tumor wrapped around your brain stem is an extremely dangerous one to remove and, indeed, my life was dramatically altered by loss of key nerves inside that tumor.

By the way, the location of a tumor reveals the area in which one fails to manifest one's own desires and goals. For me it was failing to share my writing - books, articles, and music to share on a much larger scale than I did. Even though I reached 200,000 people I can go much bigger to touch more lives.

Ladies - single moms, women without kids, grandmas - all of us need to awaken to an intolerable situation. Change only happens when numbers of us stop our silence and refuse to settle for the myriad inequalities running rampant today..

Oh yes, one more thing, the emotional make up that allows us to manage a household caring for our families and juggling all that needs doing - we are so good at that skill AND we also have a tendency to worry more than men do.

Looking for a solution to begin feeling hopeful about making a change for yourself starting right now? 

Twenty-six years ago when working in crisis care a very dangerous client cornered and attacked me leaving me with a serious brain injury. It took more than 3 years to recover  95% of how I lived previously. Within the first few months I had created a habit that I believe will serve every person, most especially unhappy stressed moms.  

Go to The Happy Share Movement  on Facebook.

Watch the movie explaining what a Happy Share is, How to do it, and, most importantly, why creating that habit will change your life. Go now. it is my gift to you.

on either site, download 7 Steps To Be Happy Now and start creating the habit of happiness now.

Something else that really bugged me - I read an article in a well-known paper some years ago. The professional woman who sent in her question wanted to know how to afford more childcare so she could continue working. The psychologist's response floored me. She advised the mom to take out a loan! The thing is, that mom was asking how to get her child care while still having extra money to continue her life style of fancy jewelry and self care extras.

What do you think about that situation? Was the mom taking care of herself AND her child in the most loving manner for both of them? Hard to know, don't you agree?

Remember that you are modeling how to live life for your children. Yes, your daughters will likely mother as you do - carrying your habits into the next generation. And your sons watch to see how to treat their wives.

Love yourself first. It is NOT selfish. It is mandatory.

Selfish is asking others to do what you want them to do. It is not doing for yourself what you want.

If you or someone you know needs assistance reclaiming their happier life, Contact me, send me a message. Let's talk.Truly, you could save their life.

About the Author Ali Bierman

Ali Bierman has been a relationship expert most of her life. As a wife of 32 years, mother, psychotherapist, specialized kinesiologist, ordained metaphysical minister, best selling author, Albert Nelson Marquis Lifetime Achievement Award winner, gifted artist and composer, teacher, family member and friend, she brings a unique perspective to her work. Change happens instantly in Ali's world. What takes a long time, and maybe never happens for some people, is getting ready to change.

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