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carrots twisted together like lovers

So much food and so many different flavors to savor! Food to taste - to love, to hate, to wonder what the heck are you eating!

Food! Food! And More Food!


The image says it all, don't you think? The carrots, growing intertwined, seem to be embracing one another.

Is that how it is in your home, especially during the holiday season we now usher in with Thanksgiving in the United States on Thursday?

Think about it...

My generation grew up with silly advice like, "The way to a man's heart is through his stomach." And I once saw a cookbook cover of a grandma holding a funnel in the child's mouth while she shoveled in endless sweets!

Good gracious! What to to think.

The whole point of this season, this holiday, is to feel gratitude, to feel happy for all we have and all we have not (you know, the bad stuff).

So enjoy yourself!!

In the process make sure you avoid making yourself sick, tired, depressed and low energy. What kind of fun is there when you are not up to or rather unable to keep up with everybody else who is busy doing doing and doing fun stuff!

When I was raising my family, back before our vegetarian days, my son used to eat lots of turkey - and lots of veggies too. He would then leave the table and lie down on the floor to rest his overfull digestive system.

Back then we believed the old urban myth that turkey tryptophan makes you sleepy. 

Ah, the power of suggestion.

Tune in next week for a deep dive on that topic. 

For now, tell yourself you are enjoying being with friends and, yes, family too. You will always find what you look for. Who wants to look for arguments and hurt feelings?

Make sure you do InJoy yourself. The video has some pointers to assist you in reaching that goal.


Another urban myth, "You can choose your friends but not your family." 

Actually you totally choose your family. That topic is  discussion for another time. Right now honor that you got to be who and how you in life because of the experiences you lived growing up in your household. Also remember that the most poignant times fostered your greatest growth.

Tell your family you love them. And when you do, if you allow yourself to feel that deep truth, guess what!

You will feel the love - and so will they.

About the Author Ali Bierman

Ali Bierman has been a relationship expert most of her life. As a wife of 32 years, mother, psychotherapist, specialized kinesiologist, ordained metaphysical minister, author, teacher, family member and friend, she brings a unique perspective to her work. Change happens instantly in Ali's world. What takes a long time, and maybe never happens for some people, is getting ready to change.

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