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What Is Fear?

​What is fear?  Fear is taking an experience out of your past and projecting it into your future - all because a current event triggered a painful memory.

Fear  stops you from living life full out. Fear keeps you stuck in the ho hum existence of just making it through each day without exciting challenges or demands to move you out of your “know” zone.

​How does fear happen?


​For so many people, maybe you included, fear gets triggered by an event in your environment that reminds you of something unpleasant from your past. So you go back into your past (rarely a wise choice of action), grab that fear and project it into your future.

In the process you re-create, or even embellish, on your old scary feelings and decide, “Oh no. It is happening again!” ​Since your mind cannot tell the difference between what is really happening and what you imagine, you go into full-blown worry and anxiety. In all likelihood your expectations will never come to fruition. They rarely do.

Watch the video to discover how I lost my fear of big dogs and moved away from worrisome thoughts and patterns into my future where even what looks dim is, in fact, a round-about journey forward to my own happiness.

You see, people are people. I am not different from you.

I decided to stop being fearful and so, by living consciously in the present moment, fear no longer intrudes on my life as it did for way too many decades!

How I feel is always up to me, not anyone else. 

No one has power over ​you either. No one else makes ​you feel a certain way. You do that all by yourself by assigning specific meanings to neutral events.

Watch this short video NOW to reclaim your birthright of happiness and joy.

About the Author Ali Bierman

Ali Bierman has been a relationship expert most of her life. As a wife of 32 years, mother, psychotherapist, specialized kinesiologist, ordained metaphysical minister, author, teacher, family member and friend, she brings a unique perspective to her work. Change happens instantly in Ali's world. What takes a long time, and maybe never happens for some people, is getting ready to change.

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