Do you ever wonder how you block happiness?
Hmm. Do you know that you are the sole source of your happiness - or the lack thereof?
If you are like most people you want to enjoy your life and live in happiness every day. Yet you take actions that stop you from reaching your happiness goal.
Be honest with yourself. Chances are no one else will tell you this stuff.
Mistake #1 – Neglecting Responsibility – I see it all the time – people take actions that lead to undesired results. Rather than assume responsibility for the choice they made they look for someone else to blame for giving them bad advice or making a faulty product, etc.
Solution: Live in the truth that you create your own reality by the thoughts you think that lead to the emotions you experience. Those emotions cause you to take, or not take, certain actions that produce a particular result. Notice the process all began with the thoughts you think – not your boss, not your partner, not your kids or your parents, not your neighbor or anybody else.
Mistake #2 – Believing That Positive Thinking Makes You Happy – thinking Pollyanna thoughts when you feel differently inside will never make you happy. The clown who wears a happy face mask yet grimaces behind it is not happy. You cannot fool your subconscious mind with positive words.
Solution: Accurate thinking will transform bad feelings into happy ones. Events just happen. They have no positive or negative value except the one you assign. When you remember and live in that truth then you get to interpret events in a way that empowers you and raises your frequency of vibration. Happy people live at high frequencies while unhappy people live at low frequencies.
Everything you want in life, all the good stuff, exists at higher frequencies. You can only access the good you seek when you vibrate in harmony with those higher frequencies.
Mistake #3 – Holding On To Old Hurts – thinking you hurt the person who you believe caused you pain or embarrassment by continuing to feel angry. To do so you must keep past memories alive by taking energy away from your present day to feed the hurt. Your body needs al its energy to make it through today and keep you healthy. You sacrifice your health and well being when you feed the past and short-change your present. Holding a grudge slowly kills you.
Solution: Let go of old hurts. After all, if you still feel angry with Bob for some behavior he did last week or thirty years ago does Bob even have an inking you are angry? Do you hurt Bob in any way? No. However you hurt your own health and well being. You also put out energy that pushes people away.
|When you let the past go and focus on the present you will notice a surge in your energy and a feeling of lightness. Both sensations will cause you to break out in a smile.|
Ali Bierman has been a relationship expert most of her life. As a wife of 32 years, mother, psychotherapist, specialized kinesiologist, ordained metaphysical minister, author, teacher, family member and friend, she brings a unique perspective to her work. Change happens instantly in Ali's world. What takes a long time, and maybe never happens for some people, is getting ready to change.
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