Forgiveness. Do you feel like forgiving someone for an action they took, or didn't take, that left you feeling hurt or sad would be like saying It's okay for them to act that way?
Do you refuse to forgive others for hurting you so you can feel righteous in your hurt? Do you tell others how unfairly you were treated looking to justify your indignation?
What I am about to say will likely get you up in arms and maybe even angry with me because the fact is you are missing the whole point of forgiveness.