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The cost of loving yourself first is extremely high. When you fail to do so the Universe steps in creating unexpected expenses you really do not desire in your life.

I am not talking nickel and dime events but hundreds to thousands of dollars. And they seem to come out of nowhere!

Which means you may or may not be prepared to handle them.

In part one we saw what matters most in gift giving. Now let's go to the next level.

What people really want most from you is, well, you. 

They want, and they deserve to know the very best you that you can be. 

They want that for their relationship with you and, more importantly, they want you to live your Very Excellent Life for you.

Given that gem of deep truth, what action are you now taking to love yourself first? Remember, loving yourself first is not selfish. It is mandatory. You cannot give what you do not have.

I recommend starting here. Something here is calling to you. Your turn to respond. Staying stuck in ho hum , settling for mediocrity, is a choice you make. Thriving is an alternate choice.

What are you waiting for?

Holidays - what a hectic - and stressful - time of year! Sure you get the fun events - parties, dinners, time with friends and family. Ah, but the scheduling, the travel plans, and, oh my - buying all those gifts. You know, the gifts no one actually wants that may be used briefly then discarded.

Have you ever gone to a store the day after Christmas to return or exchange your gifts? I bet you only did that once and never faced that mob scene again.

All that tension tends to displace the merriment of the season, doesn't it? Well, especially if you are the host of the party or the main gift buyer for the family. Family. Hmm. IS that family gathering your biggest stressor?

And then there are all the people who do not have family or friends to share the celebrations. And those who do not celebrate any holidays at this time.

While that may not be in the case in the USA, in the rest of the world the story is quite different. Ah, but, surprisingly, even with all the extravagant spending int he USA, all those dollars pale in comparison to what people spend around the world.

I know. Hard to imagine, isn't it?

Today I want you to remember that no matter how stressful or exhausted you feel right now, no matter how alone you sense yourself to be in making all these decisions, purchases, and plans, the fact is you are never ever alone.

In every moment of every day you are held with Love in Light. Seriously - you are never alone. Nor are you ever subjected to life experiences without your greater good in mind.

"What the heck? So why do I feel so pressured, so stuck, and so unhappy?"you ask.

The very simple explanation begins in this video.

When my mom turned 80 she started seeing things the rest of us did not see. And that would have been fine except...one day I walked into her home and found her in the kitchen getting a knife to kill herself. She said she had to take her life before "they" hurt her.

Thank goodness I was a psychotherapist and knew the mental health system and how to get help.

Clearly she was a danger to herself.

​Strength gets you through the tough times - physical and emotional. To thrive, develop your personal strength in both areas.

​ You get to choose how to face the situations that will come up in life.

​What is fear?  Fear is taking an experience out of your past and projecting it into your future - all because a current event triggered a painful memory.

Fear  stops you from living life full out. Fear keeps you stuck in the ho hum existence of just making it through each day without exciting challenges or demands to move you out of your “know” zone.

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​How does fear happen?

​Relationship arithmetic describes how romantic relationships  evolve from first introductions, through friendship, to love and partnership.

What happens after the honeymoon phase ends?

Get the total picture of how to build that amazing romantic relationship that lasts. ​

​Seeing is believing?

The way you see your world, yourself and the people and events in it, has nothing to do with what you perceive with your eyes. ​

What impacts your vision in ways that run your life?

​Transformation vs change. What's the difference? When you make changes does your life, in fact, change in any significant and PERMANENT way?

​Forget the temporary fixes that do not work. 

​Ready for your permanent life overhaul?

​Love languages vary from person to person. What you need to know that you are loved is probably very different from what your partner or family members or friends need to feel loved.

Consequently all of your important relationships may feel rocky because you and those you care about speak different love languages. Neither of you feels truly loved by the other. Is that accurate?

What do I mean by love languages?

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